Do all mommy blogs suck – NO! ABSOLUTELY NOT! Do some? well, sort of.
This weekend I read a blog post that went absolutely crazy – made other bloggers crazy – spread all over social media crazy – made me laugh crazy! I wasn’t laughing at the blog post. I was laughing at the reaction to the blog post. In everyone’s quest to tell the author how horrible she is for writing such a post, all the mommy bloggers she was talking about made her a good chunk of change. Her site is monetized and all the mommy bloggers up in arms about her comments shared her post thousands of times. You can read her post here: Dear Mommy Blogger by Josi Denise.
I don’t have a problem sharing her post and making her a little bit of money because quite frankly I agree with some of what she said. Not all of it – but some. Do I agree with the WAY she said it – NO – ABSOLUTELY NOT! She could have gotten her point across without using the language she used or putting some of what she said so bluntly. The fact that she lumped ALL mommy bloggers into it was wrong. She should have, at some point, noted that there are many outstanding mommy blogs. But much of what she said I have thought to myself over my 4 year blogging journey. Frankly, I have thought much worse at times about certain bloggers. Heck, I have even been guilty of some of what she said.
Just like everything in the world – there are many really great and successful mommy bloggers. Not all mommy blogs fit into what Josi wrote. There are also some that fit into every single category in Josi’s post. Diversity – it’s what makes the world go round! Everyone’s idea of success at what they do is different. Everyone has a right to their own opinion and to express that opinion in any way they choose.
Over my 4 years of blogging my most read posts are the posts that were negative or controversial. Josi knew exactly what she was doing when she published this post. She knew it would create an uproar. She knew it would get shared – over and over again. She knew mommy bloggers would be offended and in a tizzy. She knew it would get her name out there and most likely make a little money in the process. So in your quest to tell her how horrible she is – you accomplished for her exactly what she wanted accomplished.
I’m actually shocked there are no comments on the post. However, visit her Facebook page and the comments are nasty, mean, personal attacks that make those making the comments look bad – not Josi. Some of those making comments on her Facebook page should be ashamed of themselves. Some of what they wrote is a disgrace. Why attack her personally because you disagree with her opinion? Why use nasty language to do it? In your fight to defend mommy bloggers, your actions and comments make mommy bloggers look horrible, mean, insecure, unprofessional and nasty. How can the world take a mommy blogger seriously when her own behavior on social media has her looking like a high school girl fighting over the popular boy in school? Why was your reaction so harsh – because you saw something of yourself in what she wrote? What about what she wrote gave any of you the right to question her parenting and call her names – names that I wouldn’t even think – never mind type out.
“Methinks thou dost protest too much” ~ Shakespeare
Instead of being up in arms over the way she said what she said and taking the time to call her names or question her parenting – take a few minutes, reflect on what you are doing and read her last few words – “There are probably a dozen things you are actually good at. Find what you love, and what you do better than anyone else, and do that.”